Saturday, December 10, 2011

Choosing the perfect gift

Many times every year we live this challenge, the challenge of choosing the perfect gift or at least a good gift that delights it's recipient. I am not an expert in this process, or at least, it is not as easy to me as it is to some people. Heading to the market and picking up that one gift that is expected to be a good one isn't the easiest job ever. If you have no idea what will your gift be, then you can expect that this shopping trip will turn up to be an exhausting, frustrating and money wasting journey.

After long years of gifting and receiving gifts, I guess I have a gifting mentality now. Some people see a gift as an object that speaks for itself, others go deeper than that in their choices and they tend to pick up what they think is the most meaningful caring gift with special criteria. I think it is healthy to travel between these two boundaries rather than taking a side, always leave your options open, if you can't think of a sentimental gift, you can gift something that says "I remembered you and I wanted to give you something thoughtful in this special day!".


Whoever said this "the idea of gifting itself is what really matters, the content of the gift isn't as important" must be warmly thanked. Only because sometimes we are surprised with some awkward moments where we get lost, our brain can't process any useful thought anymore, those couple of minutes where we don't know what are we searching for, as for me I get some headache beside the getting lost part, just then we tend to believe-in this idea, support it and admit how wise and relieving it is. Then, we run to pick up the first shining item from the shelf.
I hate to feel that the recipient of my gift didn't like what I spend time, effort and money on, but who said that we should always be Mr. And Mrs. Perfect gift givers?! I know I don't want to be the opposite, like the person with the worst gifts record, but somewhere between the two is good.

Exchanging gifts is a healthy practice for all kind of relationships. Searching for a gift makes you spend time thinking of that person, what he/she likes and needs. Technically you are trying hard to gift that person happiness, even for couple of minutes. I mean that, you may be spending a whole day searching for the gift that will ensure you the gratitude smile.

Relationships are hard enough to maintain, the extra pressure of "delicate gifting" isn't really welcomed. When you want to gift someone, always think of something you would like to have it yourself. Choose your gift with love, it shows. And, if you were on the other side, receiving gifts, always show gratitude to whoever spent a second searching for something to make you smile, "they tried!". People who cares deserve to be appreciated, when they send love and care, love and care should be showered back at them.

The most inappropriate gift I ever had was an elegant lighter. I don't smoke! Sender: Friend.
The best gift I ever had was my kids, sender: God. A SAHM in Dubai

10 comments:

  1. Love your background picture. You have a very nice looking blog. Looks promising, keep it up.

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  2. That's sweet. thank you, I really appreciate the support

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  3. Thanks for your sincere message about gifting! Gifting should always be more pleasurable to you then receiving. I always found it special to select gifts for my three daughters, and when I still see them wearing a necklace I gave them when they were younger I have joy again. We have changed our family (the adults) to drawing names of the couples and gifting a donation to their favorite charity rather than buying a gift. In this case both the gifting & receiving bring pleasure.

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  4. Beautiful blog! I think gift-giving is an art that develops over time. I tend to give books as gifts and I love selecting "just the right book" for each recipient. Love your blog and I'll be back!

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  5. @ Bud's Book blog: thank you for your comment, I really appreciate it. Your gifts to your kids, are gifts of love and this kind of gifts shall remain forever, I think you have raised your kids with love and care, that what appreciating your gifts shows. I liked the idea of donation in the name of others, a lot of people will be happy with your giving. Donating has it's special effect over our souls, you can feel the happiness you are spreading and you are helped the most with what you are giving.

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  6. @Sandra Mcleod Humphery: Thank you for your preview! I would love having you again and again. Books are my favorite gift, to receive and gift. when you gift someone a book, you are automatically sending them the peace, information, knowledge and the pleasure of reading.

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  7. New follower from the bloggin mamas group on BBC. Beautiful post and so true. Looking forward to reading more.

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  8. Welcome to the blog, Hope that you always enjoy your reading. And share us with your thoughts and comments. Thank you

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  9. Thanks for sharing this Amal. Gifts , in whichever form given,as long as sincerely is what matters a lot!

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  10. Thank you Naveeka for your participation in this blog. Of course, the important thing about gifting is the thing itself... "TO GIFT!"

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